Relationship Insights Reveal...
"How you can talk to
your partner or spouse about anything without fear
about how they'll react or what they'll say, think or do"
It's a fact...
With these simple, yet powerful ideas, you won't have to keep your
thoughts, feelings or what's important to you inside any more.
With what you'll learn in "Stop Talking On Eggshells," you'll finally be
able to talk about anything (especially the important stuff) without
either one of you shutting down or getting upset. When you apply this
new information, you'll also feel more understood, loved and more
connected than you ever thought possible.
We're Susie and Otto Collins and we'd like to ask you a few questions
about your relationship or marriage...
Are there any issues between you and your partner that you "just don't
talk about" out of fear of what would happen if you did?
Are there times when you wish you could just talk things over without
having a big argument or blowup?
Do you ever feel distant,
disconnected or alone because of your (and your partner's) inability to
truly communicate with each other?
Do you wish you could both just put down your defenses and walls and
give each other the love you both really want?
Are there ever any times when you
"hold back" and just do whatever is necessary to keep the peace in the
Do you ever "go overboard" and go
out of your way to do things you may not not necessarily want to do to
please someone in hopes of making things in your relationship go better?
If you answered YES to any of the above questions, you are not alone.
Being able to speak the truth openly and honestly in a relationship,
along with feeling heard and understood, are some of the biggest challenges
that most people face today.
We call it... "talking on eggshells."
does it mean to "talk on eggshells"?
When we use the phrase "talking on
eggshells," we're talking about those times when you feel that you can't
fully say what it is that you want to say for whatever reason (mostly
out of fear about what the other person's reaction will be.)
If you're someone who's ever felt
like you were talking on eggshells with anyone in your life, believe us
when we say that this is normal and almost everyone does it from time to
The problems begin when you feel
like you are talking on eggshells more than just occasionally and there
is pain, disharmony, distance and upset in your relationship because of
it. You may not realize it yet but by talking on eggshells, you are
actually taking yourself away from the love you really want.
We know what that is like to talk on eggshells and here's what we can
When it comes to love, communication and connection, the two of us have
found out the hard way in our own lives that talking on eggshells is a
lousy strategy for getting what we want in our relationship.
we know that "talking on eggshells"
won't help you
create the kind of
love and relationship you really want?
This is something we both tried (unsuccessfully, we might add) in our
previous marriages and it's also something we've seen time and time
again in the people we've worked with personally in our relationship
coaching practice, in workshops, presentations or those who purchased
our books and courses.
At this point, the two of us have been together for quite a few years
and have a truly wonderful connection and relationship. We enjoy each
other and being together, but believe us when we say that we didn't
always have the relationship and communication skills that we now have.
Long before we started working with people about their relationships and
prior to our relationship together, we had both come out of long-term
marriages. Susie was married to someone else for 30 years and Otto was
married to someone else for over 15 years.
In our own ways--ways we'll describe in more detail later--we both
talked on eggshells much of the time, especially in the last years of
Otto's ex may have a different perspective on what did or didn't happen
in their marriage, as Otto looks back on it, he remembers trying to play the nice guy, bending over
backwards and doing whatever it took to please his now ex-wife. He kept
things inside that should have been talked about, not wanting to "rock
the boat" and just trying to keep the peace. Talking on eggshells for
him never worked. It only served as a place within him where resentment
and anger lived and grew.
Susie's experience with her ex-husband was both similar and different.
Over the 30 years they were married, they gradually drifted apart until
they didn't have much in common with each other.
In the later years of their marriage, although they still loved one another, they found
that they were watching what they said to each other and there were
times when they just couldn't say anything right. They
just didn't understand each other any more and wanted different things
out of life.
When the two of us came together, we carried those harmful talking on
eggshell patterns with us into our new relationship. The two of us had
to learn how to be and act much differently if we were to create the
kind of love and relationship that we really wanted.
We took a look at how things were going, took a look at our
previous marriages and realized once and for all that if we wanted to
create a closer and more connected relationship and have it stay that
way, we had to change what we habitually did. We had to reverse what wasn't
working in our relationship.
Luckily for us, we figured out
that talking on eggshells, being afraid to say what was on our mind, not
being willing to share our thoughts and feelings and not communicating
authentically were all things that were going to destroy our potentially
wonderful relationship in almost no time at all if we didn't stop. We had to change.
of communication in creating
a great relationship or marriage
Communication in relationships is a funny thing...
And as you probably already know, communication is arguably the most
important skill to cultivate, learn and grow if you want to have
If you've got some communication issues you need
to work out in your relationship, it shouldn't come as a surprise to you if you just think about it.
After all, we aren't taught how to communicate or how to have
a good relationship.
No one ever taught us how to "be"
or "act" so that our relationships would work out great--and
stay that way.
In most cases, our parents didn't
know (their relationship was most likely filled with challenges too) and
you certainly didn't learn about how to create a
great relationship in school. Your friends probably weren't any better at
relationships than you were!
Fast forward months or years later
and here is where you find yourself...wanting to be able to say what's
going on within you or what's important to you and you feel stuck,
confused. You're wishing your relationship could somehow be better.
What we have discovered is that if
your communication is strained or non-existent, you're most likely on
your way to a relationship full of upsets, anger, judgments,
assumptions, conflicts, misunderstandings, drama and pain.
If you have a partner, co-worker, family member or friend who's closed
to you (for whatever reason), we don't have to tell you how much
distance this can create between the two of you and how much of an
emotional and physical drain this can be.
With this kind of a drain, it makes it difficult to connect and have any
kind of true cooperation, closeness, connection, or intimacy.
On the other hand, if your communication flows and you are both open to
each other, even when it's not easy, you'll be amazed at just how
incredible your relationship can be.
and the WRONG way to communicate
if you want to have good relationships in your life
Most people get it all wrong when they figure out
that withdrawing, retreating, pleasing, backing off and in general
"talking on eggshells" isn't working and here's why...
At some time in their relationships
or lives, most people come to a breaking point within themselves and
decide "Hey, I'm not going to be timid or shy in my relationship any
more. I'm going to say what I think or feel, whenever I think or feel
This is a bad idea.
After working with people on their
communication and relationships, we've found that after they give themselves
permission to speak their truth, open up and stop talking on eggshells, they do a complete one-eighty.
They start doing the complete opposite of what they're going to
want to do in order to create more closeness, connection and harmony in
In fact, many people go so far to the other side of the spectrum after
they decide they're not going to talk on eggshells anymore, they
become angry, demanding, hostile, belligerent, forceful, grandiose and
superior in regards to how they talk to and treat other people.
They might think-- "I've been a wimp in my relationship for too
long and now I'm going to show everyone I'm not going to take it
Acting in this way will perhaps make you feel more powerful, but it
certainly won't help you create the love, intimacy and connection in your
relationships that you really want.
This will take you in the opposite direction, away from what you want.
Here's what we suggest you do
"Magic Key" to communication in relationships
that leads to more closeness and connection ...
If there is
one thing you can do, starting right now, that will help you begin making
dramatic changes for the better in your relationship or marriage, it's
Spend all of your time, effort and
energy in your relationship focused on creating what you want instead of
what you don't want.
This sounds so simple but most
people (and couples) don't do it.
Many people spend the bulk of
their time and energy blaming, judging, criticizing, manipulating,
trying to prove their "righteousness" and making their partner wrong
that they lose sight of the real goal in relationship and focusing on
how to create that.
What happens next for most couples
is usually one of three things:
~They decide to do what it takes to draw closer together
~ They stay stuck in their positions and decide to leave the
relationship totally and separate or divorce
The third thing that frequently happens is what most couples choose to
do when conflicts, disagreements and challenges come up--
~ One or both of the partners decide that they
don't want to fight anymore and so they withdraw from the conflict
enough to keep the relationship going. But in the
process, something tragic happens...
In their attempts to just keep the peace, not "rock the boat" and keep
the relationship going, one or both of the partners starts "talking on
eggshells." Before you know it, the passion, life and energy just
gets sucked out of the relationship and leaves them wondering "What
happened to our love."
In our opinion, one of the most
important things anyone can do to create a closer and more connected
relationship is to learn how to "Stop Talking On Eggshells" and start
communicating to connect.
But how do you do this?
We've just created a brand new
course that will give you everything you need to know in order to stop
talking on eggshells and start connecting with your spouse or partner in
a whole new way.
Our new program is called "Stop Talking On Eggshells" and it includes a
guidebook and 6 audios that will add additional insights and
distinctions to what you will learn from the manual.
You can download it now by clicking here
With this breakthrough new info,
we take you by the hand and give you practical, step-by-step instructions on
how you can talk to your partner or spouse about anything without
fear about how they'll react or what they'll say, think or do.
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|The "Stop Talking On
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We've organized this guidebook in our course into three parts.
In the introduction and chapter one, we're giving you background
information about what talking on eggshells is and why most of us do it.
In Part 2, we will guide you through identifying your situation and
looking at your problem with new understandings.
In Part 3, we give you specific strategies for learning to trust
yourself, making conscious choices instead of reacting, speaking your
truth from your unfulfilled or unspoken wants, needs or desires and
making requests that are able to be heard and understood--and most of
all, how to communicate with ease.
Woven within the pages of this "Stop Talking On Eggshells" guidebook are
our personal stories and the stories of others who gave us permission to
use their words with the hope that their stories would be helpful to you
as you discover how to create richer, more passionate, alive, growing
There are questions at the end of each chapter to help you examine your
specific situation more closely and to give you more clarity about what
is best for you and your relationship and how you can best move forward.
When you order the
"Stop Talking On Eggshells" program, you'll also get instant access to
the following six downloadable mp3 audio recordings that are a part of
|Audio 1 & 2
"Stop Talking On Eggshells At
Home and At Work"
These two audios are the recordings of
our teleseminar "Stop Talking On Eggshells At Home and At
This presentation is nearly ninety minutes and in
it, we show you how to start communicating in a way that will
bring you more love, passion, connection in your marriage or intimate
This information will also show you how
to have more
peace, connection and understanding at work and In ALL of your other
|Audio 3 & 4
"Getting Him or Her To Open To
These two recordings are from our teleseminar "Getting Him or Her To
Open To You".
On these recordings, we offer
breakthrough ideas for dealing with someone who is distant,
standoffish, aloof, disrespectful, non-committal,
emotionally unavailable, cold, wishy-washy, unable or unwilling
to share his or her feelings, negative, unwilling to work on the
relationship, or doesn't see the problems like you do.
On these recordings from this live
presentation, we share what to do in situations like this where
you want more. (Recording time Approx 85
"Relationships and Money"
Money is one of the biggest areas in
relationships where conflict comes up.
On this audio recording from an interview and live
teleseminar we tackle the toughest of tough financial conflicts
~We will guide you through How to Handle Sensitive Money Issues
You will learn the proper way to
address who should handle the finances, whether or not to keep
separate finances and how to reconcile financial concerns in
We also teach you how to agree on spending money on the kids and
successful ways to approach bringing different amounts of
financial resources into a new relationship and much more. (Recording time Approx 45 mins)
"7 Intimacy Secrets"
Creating more intimacy and
connection in your most important relationships can be a tricky
thing. With the information we share in the audio of our "7
Intimacy Secrets" live presentation,
we'll help you take the mystery out of getting more of what you
want. (Recording time
66 min 12 sec)
Here's a partial list of
what you'll learn when you get the "Stop Talking On Eggshells"
Coping strategies for
dealing with "power struggles" in your relationship or marriage
What to do if your
partner thinks or says everything is "just fine" in your
relationship and you're wanting more
How to help your partner
or spouse to feel safe enough to share all that intimacy has to
offer you, even after many years of both of you NOT fostering a
love, caring or intimate environment
How to tell the truth in
a way that is kind and helpful instead of upsetting or destructive--even
when it's difficult
How to deal with a partner who is controlling and sees no reason to change
How to sustain and nurture open
communication so that both you and your partner are
growing in your own unique journey of life while living in partnership and as a team
How you can truly be you
(even when other people have other ideas about what you should do or
how you should be)
How to effectively deal
with a partner who appears to have a lot lower libido than you do
and how to communicate that it is an important topic to
How you can know if you
are sabotaging your own desires and efforts in order to achieve
receiving the kind of relationship you really want
How you can encourage your
partner or spouse to talk about his or her feelings and create
How you can stay
connected or intimate with your partner even during arguments or
What to do about a partner who
says he or she will do something and then puts out no effort
How to recognize when
you or your partner is talking on eggshells and how to make shifts
to opening up your relationship to closer connection
The most common reason
that causes you or anyone to talk on eggshells
The real reason
underneath all the withdrawing and retreating in relationships
What to do if the two of
you have separated, going through a divorce and you can't
communicate or talk to one another
The one thing you should
do (no matter how bad things are) before you or your partner calls
it "quits" and leaves the relationship or marriage
The one thing you must
uncover about yourself and your partner to truly
create the relationship you really want
How to keep your mind
from playing tricks on you that keep you stuck in this situation
The one thing to make
sure you don't do if you want to stop talking on eggshells
What you may be
unconsciously doing to contribute to these communication challenges,
without even realizing it
How you can use a simple
mirror to test your level of openness or help you know more clearly
if you're talking on eggshells or not
11 reasons why your
partner (or anyone in your life) shuts down to you
How to identify, shift
and change any disempowering stories that may be taking you away
from the love and kind of relationship you really want
How to create a feeling
of safety for you and your partner to open to one another
How "bad" traits in
yourself or your partner could actually be blessings in disguise
A sure-fire way to begin
to open to one another and feel more understood (even when
everything else you've tried has failed)
How to deal with with
communication issues when anger comes up for one or both people
How you can use the
power of curiosity to diffuse situations where you or your partner
are talking on eggshells
How you and your partner
can become more trustable to each other
How to create new,
conscious choices that help you create more of what you want in your
Ways you and your
partner can shift to keep whatever commitments you have to
How to begin if you have
self esteem issues or have trouble loving yourself
How to solve the "catch 22" of
conflict and communication in your relationship or marriage so you
can connect with your partner once and for all
How to make requests in a
clear way that don't cause more struggle, conflict or problems
Why you don't always have to
use words to solve communication challenges, conflicts and upsets
How to adopt the
attitude of kindness, openness, caring and love in your relationship
(even in the midst of conflict or chaos)
And much more...
tell if this "Stop Talking On Eggshells"
program is for you...
If you or your partner have
any challenges at all in communicating your thoughts, feelings or
emotions to each other, then this program is for you.
If you have ever been hesitant at any time (now or in the past) to speak
your truth and be honest and authentic without holding back out of fear
of what the other person might say, do or how they might react and you
want to do it differently--then this is for you.
If you are willing to invest a little bit of time,
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that will dramatically improve the quality of your communication and
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...you are unwilling to give it one more try, then you
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This program is for people who want more love and a better relationship
and are willing to try some new ideas and strategies in their
relationship or marriage and do something about it.
What do you want for your
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Talking On Eggshells"...
to couples the necessary tools and strategies for communicating thoughts,
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